KIDs need to Learn

Being a perfectionist mom, and also a mom with limited patience at times, I tend forgot that kids need to learn.

The other day, my 3 year old wanted to fill in her cup with water and took it to the sofa. On the way, as I never expect, spilled the water on the floor as she moved too quickly in my opinion. I made a fuss over that and subsequently feel terrible for not letting her to LEARN. I realize that I have been unreasonably expect her to get things done right the first time.

Being too busy with life, work and chores has made me forgetting this very important thing, that kids need time to learn, and they learn from mistakes. I am writing this post to remind us parents that this time shall pass, and we will definitely miss those moments when our kids did mistakes, those time we guided them on the right way of doing things while we cleaned the mess. All these are temporary. Looking forward, when we reach the day our kids leave our home for studies or to pursue their very own lives, leaving us with a quiet & clean home to take care of, you know that you miss those moment, the moment you are living in now, the moment you child is still clinging to you, talking to you, holding your hands, begging you to read another bed time story.

We do not want kids to just listen to instruction, we want to raise them to be independent, and in order to do so, mistakes are inevitable. Mistakes are so inevitable and important as it forms a part of the learning process. We as adults do learn new things in our lives, and we do expect ourselves to make mistakes before we can master the new skills. So we should not expect our child to master a skill the first time doing it, just because we think that it is easy.

In short, we have to remind ourselves the followings:

EXPECT : Mistakes, a lot of them.
EMBRACE : Our kids is still attached to us right now
EXTRA : Praises when they learn from mistakes